BREAK THE LOVE-HATE CYCLE
I want to talk about my relationship with social media, specifically Instagram. I've really had to shift my mindset towards social media platforms, specifically Instagram, Instagram. And I have always had, I guess you could say, a love-hate relationship. I didn't want to be that person. You know, that person who is always posting about themselves and promoting their business, showing up, showing off everything to everyone in their life. But the reality is, is I am a businesswoman. And if I want to reach people, I need to meet them where they're at.
So I just have to make sure that how I approach social media is in alignment with my values. I personally value joy, honesty, vulnerability, and passion.
WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES?
So everything that I post, I choose to exude those values. When you are learning to embrace social media, you need to understand. You have to switch your mindset. Your mindset has to change from "why am I doing this? Who the heck really cares about my life and what I'm doing and what I have to say?" Connect what you're posting to your values and your mission statement. For me, I want to empower women to be their authentic selves and to chase their dreams no matter how big they are. And so I had to reframe my thinking to say something like this if I want to impact the most people. Social media is a platform I can use to reach those women.
THE WORLD NEEDS YOU TO SHOW UP
So if I'm keeping myself small out of fear, then I'm doing a disservice to the millions of women out who can benefit from my message by putting myself out there and creating content and posting about it and telling others to check it out. I'm not being selfish. I'm fulfilling my duty, my duty to help other women become the best version of themselves. Don't be afraid of polarizing your followers. Your perfect follower will not be everyone. If you're speaking from your truth and your values, inevitably someone will disagree. Those people, they're not someone you want following you. Stay true to yourself, whatever that looks like. If that's your faith, your beliefs, your values, your dreams, how you choose to show up in the world. If someone disagrees, there will be others out there cheering you on. They will connect with you. And those are the people that you want to find you.
BE YOU, NOT SOMEONE ELSE
If you're trying to be everything for everyone, your true followers won't be able to find. You will be. It's like you're in a dark closet. The lights are off and you're just trying to, like, reach for everything around you and find that one pen. You won't be able to do it because everything is in there. But when you turn on the light and you reveal exactly who you are, it is so much easier for that person to find that specific thing that they are looking for, which could be you.
Let go of the fear. Let go of who you should be or who you shouldn't be. What limiting beliefs are holding you back for a long time. My main limiting belief was my fear of how others would perceive me. I didn't want to offend anyone. I didn't want to be that girl. I have always been a pretty quiet person and I really don't talk very much except for when someone would ask me a direct question or I felt deeply hurt. I don't like small talk. I don't like asking people about the weather. I like to just dove in and get in there into those nitty-gritty topics of "How are you doing? Tell me about your life. What are your struggles? What is your reality?" Share it with me. Open up to me. So I had to shed that fear and step into my strength and I'd tell myself, you are worthy to be heard. You have something special to share with the world. So shout it off the rooftops because you are worthy.
Let that sink in. You are worthy.
If you want to open a business, if you want to be the best stay at home mom and the frickin world, own it. You are worthy. Do it, be it. Those goals and dreams are in your mind for a reason. So don't let your fear get in the way of changing someone's life for the better.
Set boundaries. Social media is designed to be addicting. So stop that cycle before it sucks you in charge, your phone outside of your room. Turn off your notifications and give yourselves hours of the day where you're allowed to be on your phone and then choose a time where you're no longer responding to messages or scrolling through content.
Your family deserves your attention, not half your attention, your undivided attention.
You are able to be so much more mindful when you are not attached to your phone consistently. When I go on walks, I leave my phone in my purse or at home, and I do not open it up because I want to soak in everything around me. I want to be able to smile at people as I walk by. I want to feel the freedom to start a conversation with a stranger. I want to be able to look at the beautiful trees and just take them in and be thankful for their beauty and for the opportunity I have that I can walk around and enjoy the outdoors, you need to have boundaries in a relationship, you have to have boundaries with technology. Remember that no one has it all together. We're all trying to figure out the shit, no matter if you are a successful businesswoman or a stay at home mom or perhaps both.
YOU SHOULD FEEL THE DISCOMFORT
If you know exactly what you're doing, then you are not pushing yourself enough. You have to step into that discomfort because when you do that, that is when you are truly growing, learning, and possibly failing. And that is totally okay. There is nothing wrong with you and the speed at which you are moving. If you're taking a step forward each and every day to better yourself and towards your dreams, you'll eventually make it.
BE PRESENT WHILE WORKING TOWARDS YOUR FUTURE
When I say that I don't want you to think of your wellness and your personal development as a goal that has to be reached because I think in doing that, you really lose the happiness of embracing this current moment and so embrace each and every moment for what it is. Whatever today looks like; you may not have the income that you want or the home that you want or the clothes that you want. You have to find the balance of being okay with where you are at now and loving where you are right now, but also working towards bettering yourself and reaching that goal and that dream that you have for yourself. And once you reach that goal and dream, you're gonna have another goal and dream that you're gonna be working on. It's an ever continuous process that you will never ultimately reach.
So if you are running around like crazy, doing all the things and then neglecting your self-care and neglecting your family, you will reach whatever that goal is that you have set for yourself. But that is not going to bring you joy and happiness. The joy in the happiness is going to come from within yourself. You will feel joy and happiness when you reach that goal, but it will be fleeting. And then you'll be moving on to the next goal. Remember that as you are looking at the lives of other people around you, they may have attained a goal that you wish to reach. But once you get there, if you're killing yourself to get there and neglecting so many things around you, you are missing 95 percent of that process. That whole entire journey, that is the beauty of it.
Look for women who share not just the good, but also the struggles. When you set boundaries and take a step back, it's so much easier to see people for who they really are. Don't try to be someone else. Be you as one of my favorite people, Marie Foreleo says, "You are the only you there will ever be."
Thank you so much for tuning into this podcast. I really appreciate each and every one of you. I look forward to talking to you next Monday. And until then, if you want to see more about who I am and what I do, go check out my Instagram @eudaimonialifestyle or my website www.lauraambrosioart.com .